Love Me Do

Regina’s piece last week on Self Worth really hit a chord with a lot of people. I had conversations with people before the blog went up, who have situations where their self worth is really taking a battering.

This all got me thinking, reading, researching.

Self Esteem
Self Worth
Self Regard
Self Respect
Self Integrity

SELF LOVE

Self Love does not mean we are one of those who comes across as self obsessed or self centered. Self love is a courageous mental shift, of inner understanding. When we have true love for ourselves, we can spread it around; we cannot possibly offer genuine love to others, if we don’t see ourselves as a source of love. This is not only in our relationships, but in our deeds and actions to anyone in our community.

Write it Down:
We all have them, those broken records, those little nagging criticisms. We’ve been listening to these messages for so long now, we often don’t even hear them. But they do have their impact on our self worth. Write it down, separate it from your mind, see it on a piece of paper, and say to yourself, there I don’t need to carry that around anymore, I can leave it on that piece of paper. Remind yourself when you hear that whisper (or loud scream) to change the mental CD, or skip to a positive one, we don’t have to put up with “broken records” anymore!

Counteract the Above:
For every negative thought, find a response that counteracts it. Make it as loving, kind and positive as possible.

Ask Yourself:
Is this just that, an old thought pattern? Is it of any use to me anymore? Do the facts of my life still support this thought? Why am I letting this recur? Remind yourself you no longer need this.

What is your Mood:
How are you feeling when you have these thoughts. If you were feeling happier, well, energetic would you see the situation the same way?

The Source:
Where did I get this thought? Most things go way back, to very early relationships, traumas, coping mechanisms. So is it effective or useful anymore?
If you do know the source, reassure that little kid, teen or young adult, that smaller You. Tell them they did nothing wrong, and you are here to protect and love them now.

Make Lists:
Make a list of what you like about yourself. Modesty does not help here, nor do old criticisms. Praise for yourself is healing, and it nourishes your self worth. If you find this difficult to do, think about what you love and admire in others. Do you have those same traits, usually you do.

Make a list of compliments from others. When someone pays you a compliment or comments in a positive way about you, make a note. (Physically, like get yourself a notebook for all these notes!) This is not a replacement for your own self love, but a step towards learning to have self love. Sometimes we may need to hear it from others (and be able to read it again!) so that we can value it in ourselves. (Really get a notebook, so you can re-read all the lovely things you and others think of you, great for those days that are bummers!)

Make a list (in that new gorgeous little notebook of yours) of something you achieve, or are proud of. You can update it every day or every week, make note of these things.

Read Your New Notebook Whenever You Need a Pick up!

Give Yourself an Affirmation of Loving-kindness.
Find one that works for you. You can Google it!
I AM KIND, COMPASSIONATE, INTELLIGENT AND WISE (or use whatever words you like). Repeat this as often as you can, stick them up everywhere, or if you don’t feel comfortable with that put little notes where you will find them; in the pocket of a pair of jeans, your wallet, and the biscuit tin! Repeating is the key, a lesson we should all know by that old broken record.
A really tough one can be to look at yourself in the mirror, look deeply into your eyes, and tell You...I Love You. See the compassion, the kindness and tell yourself again.
A thing I do when I am getting a treatment on my back, is when I am lying on the table I go deep in and tell myself “I love you, I want you to feel good, I will take care of you.”

Another thing that comes to mind is a little joke my husband and I have. If one of us speaks a bit harsher than we should, the other says, “Would you speak to your best friend like that?” (In a funny jokey voice- but it works, puts it into perspective!) Maybe we need to ask ourselves that, would we tell a friend the things we tell ourselves. Talk to others like we do ourselves?


Life holds no grudges against us, it always forgives us. Does our vision of love exclude ourselves? We accept our loved ones for “who they are”; can we allow ourselves the same? When having a negative thought ask "Is this kind?" Paying attention to our (supposed) faults and flaws, being tough on ourselves does not bring change, does not make us happier. Negative, hurtful thoughts and self criticism hold back the free flow of harmony in our lives.
Encourage strengths and positives.

Think of a loved one: partner, friend or family. Close your eyes, think of everything you love about this person, how they make you feel, what you admire in them. Now imagine yourself to be that person, and how that person sees you, what they love about you, how you make them feel, what they admire in you. Imagine them feeling all the compassion and love they have for you, and the happiness you bring them. Feel their compassion and love and own it.

suzy x

Living in a Material World

I have come to a tough realization, I have been pushing it away for years...I have at times meant to do something about it, I have beat myself up about it, and I have yelled at my kids about it.

My kids are greedy.

But you know what; this is completely normal. Doesn’t mean I have to like it though...and definitely means I’m going to try really hard to make a change.

How can they not be greedy??

Attractive window displays, bright packaging, weekly catalogues in our mailbox. Slick advertising aimed directly at them, newer and better fascinating toys. Christmas decorations in the shops in August. Easter Eggs in January!

And us parents rewarding good behaviour, and also bribing, buying ourselves some quiet, filling voids left by work and general busyness and alleviating our guilt over anything...with stuff.

We give them everything they want. We just want them to be happy. We want them to have what we didn’t. We want to be able to “treat” them. We want them to feel satisfied.

When you look at your child, you look in a mirror- you shape their values. Uh oh, does that mean they get it from me??

As my kids get older it becomes more and more obvious that they have been conditioned to think that they don’t have enough, they need more! To be happy they need more, but they will never have enough, there will never be enough.

They collect things, and they always need another one, another figurine, another book, but the having of the something never matches the initial drive of desiring the something...one of my kids does not so much as play with the collections as just loves having them.

I look at all the phases my children have been through, a box full of Ponies, another full of Cars...all things they have grown out of and can even hold embarrassment for owning them !
I was thinking about selling them on E-bay, so they could get more money to buy more things...then I realized that needs a re-think!

We have a system of handing down our clothes to a couple of families we know with younger kids. We need to start a new system of pulling out all the hand me down toys, and getting them to choose a charity or hospital where other children will get to enjoy them.
I am going to limit the amount of things they can own, or purchase, and once this has been reached, they can donate some of their older stuff.
Hopefully it will also teach them not to become too attached to material goods...hard when their mother has a habit of getting sentimental about things, and has been known to hold onto stuff for a bit too long!.


They do not know the joy of wanting something for a long time and then finally getting it, as we did in our childhoods. They don’t have to think about a toy for months, waiting for Christmas or birthdays, doing jobs around the house to save up...because at some point before then, they will probably end up with most things that their heart has once desired.

I am trying to figure out ways to teach my children that they can only find happiness from within, not from owning an object. I worry that this materialistic outlook is spiritually scarring them, when instead they need spiritual nourishment.

I want my children to value themselves for who they are, and what their actions are, rather than what they own. I want them to understand that contentment is a training of the heart. I want to equip myself and my children to be able to say no to “things” and not feel bad about it. I want them to know that having the most Collector Cards at school does not make them cool. That owning the latest Video Game does not get them a best friend.
I want my family to understand that we have enough things.

I need to stop rewarding their good behaviour with something bought. I need to find other incentives, like having a friend for a sleep- over, watching a special TV show, spending quality time with them and letting them choose an activity that we never find time for.

I need to realize that getting them a little something every time we go to the shops has desensitized them to the actual meaning of “treat”.

I need to realize that I am not a mean parent because my child is not getting an I Pod for his 5th birthday, broadband connected to her cubby house, or 70 inch Plasmas in their bedrooms. My husband and I should not work longer hours so they can wear the most expensive sneakers being worn.

Time is more important than money, I cannot buy love. My children will not become more socially apt, gifted or happier because of what they own.

When I think about all the things my children have nagged for, and needed desperately, or even I felt they needed desperately...none of it made them “happier”.
Not like when we all go to the beach, or have a tickle war on the couch, or sit down for dinner together and talk.
None of it.

I once read a tip on a parenting blog. Tell your children a white-lie, tell them that you are now a poor family, and the only hope of getting what they want is to get good marks at school and to behave well, and hopefully Santa will bring it at Christmas time...not such a bad idea!


Maybe it is not just our children who need to stop this un-mindful consumption, and start practicing mindful consuming.

I wonder why when we compare what we have with others, we always compare up? Would it not put things in more perspective if we compared down? Rather than our friends with the new amazing fan dangled what ever it is, try comparing what your family has with one in say Afghanistan, Zimbabwe or rural China.

And suddenly you will see how much we have in our beautiful lives.

suzy x

Karma Farmer

For the last couple of weeks I have struggled with my mindfulness and happiness.

I have been spending time with a friend who has had health issues and is in need. Friends have had fall outs with each other. I had another bout with the dreaded fatigue.
All of this has seeped into my life in a negative energy kind of way, and left me feeling flat and exhausted.

When things get on top of you, or all come at once, it is hard to tread the water and keep your head above!

I have had to go back over all my tools, re-reading certain posts from this blog, and my favorite books, to bring myself back to where I need to be.

It is easy to let sneaky negative influences creep in when all seems to be problematic. The Buddhists believe there are no problems, just situations. I am trying to focus on solutions for situations rather than the problems I first saw, because as we all know, focusing on something will just make it bigger and stronger. And there is always a solution...or there could be no problems!

I have moved away from concentrating on what is upsetting my friends or myself and really started thinking about how I can deal with the situation, without getting too emotionally involved, because if I do that and gather the negative energy, I am of no help to anyone.

I have come up with solutions that I can use, and this has left me feeling positive and active. I may not be able to solve a whole situation, but I can certainly start improvements.

So I re-read, used the tools, caught some sunlight whenever I could, rested, meditated, cleared my mind...it has been going 100 miles a millisecond with all of this. LOADS of junk mail! It has been quite a job to keep reminding myself that it is just junk mail and that I am telling myself stories when I imagine; this is happening because...or someone meant that when they said...or they must think this...all just made up stories.

When we get angry, upset or negative we want to change the external, we want someone to behave differently, or say something else, or see things our way. But it is the internal we need to concentrate on, only we can let ourselves feel negative, upset or angry with a situation. We can only change the internal. We can only really be happy when we are aware of the internal. When we feel anger, but can accept it, and make a choice not to act negatively on it, we are empowering ourselves. We have made a positive choice.

So all this was going on when I came across this Chinese saying about Karma;

If you plant melons, you will harvest melons. If you plant beans, you will harvest beans.

How true, how simple. It gave me an idea for a new tool. Karma Farming!
What if every time I planted a seed of good karma (a positive action), I actually visualize a little paddock marked say COMPASSION and I planted a little seed.

So I set up my imaginary farm. I have paddocks for all the good qualities that I deem important. I even have a paddock for each of my children; every time I am patient or kind (when feeling frazzled!) off I go to the little paddock and plant the seed. Very soon I will have many crops! And I will be repaid in the same way; I will sow my reward...because that’s how Karma works.

And it is fun! My farm is in a sweet little valley and the paddocks have charming wooden fences with arches over the gates with the name of each quality that I am sowing. I am taking great care...I’m a Karma Farmer!

suzy x

The Car Park Thief

Last week I wrote about my list of things that make me smile. But hey, I know it’s not all good times, light and happiness!

In this day and age we are surrounded by anger. We are bombarded by the media; road rage, car park rage, even shopping trolley rage. We yell abuse, give the finger and shout *beep* you at anyone and every one who annoys us.

The world is an angry place, and perhaps becoming angrier. We believe we are permitted to be angry and this allows us to find even more to be angry about. Why? Who said this was ok? Deep down we know it’s not ok.

A few years ago, I was stomping around as angry as every one else, if you irritated me then *beep* you too! At the time I was seeing a natural practitioner for my fatigue and pain, and saying “I’m soo angry...and I don’t know why, I actually have no reason to be”. So why?

I don’t know why, maybe because it is being thrust at us as an acceptable practice. Maybe because I hadn’t figured out there was an easier way to be. I think back and try and work out where my anger went, I don’t know, but I do know that since I have practiced mindfulness and chosen happiness my anger has reduced greatly.

Anger is like jealousy, both horrible emotions that leave you feeling terrible and knotted up inside. Aggression, rage, self focused and self righteous. Criticizing someone’s sense of identity, ruining someone’s happiness. It is difficult to be around angry people; it is unpleasant to be an angry person. Negative emotions rob you of your peace and happiness.

I read that when feeling anger, take a moment to ask what is it that you need right now? Sort out yourself, and then look at the situation. I used this last week in a car park. I had the kids in the car, waiting patiently for a car to back out of its space, when I hear a toot. Some lady had pulled up behind the exiting car and was gesturing at me with a very self satisfied smile that the park was hers (it wasn’t. I was there first!) The car backed out in such a way that she could zip straight in.

The old me may have pulled over and questioned her (not sure if that’s the right term!) on this. The new me still struggled with my emotions, grrrr, that look on her face, who did she think she was, grrr, I could go and kick her car (not really, but a satisfying thought!).

The kids started picking up on my anger, I thought to myself; what do I need right now...a car park...and I will find one in the next few minutes so I’ve just got to drive off and find one, and I did...left that lady behind, left the anger behind, and got on with my day.

I also use this method with my children. It’s bedtime and the routine starts; can I have a drink, a piece of apple, one more hug. I can feel very angry as I just want to relax and have some time to myself, or I can look at the situation; what do I need.
I need those two to get to sleep! I can yell, rant, threaten and it will leave us all a little worse for wear. Or I can do what needs to be done, whether it is another hug, some apple, and then firmly reminding them it is bedtime. It’s quicker and it doesn’t leave us all feeling drained.
It is my choice though, how I react, and I have to be aware of this. It doesn’t mean I don’t find it annoying, but I choose my response.

It’s like everything. You can choose anger, you can choose to jump up on your high horse, get mad, plan to get even, hold grudges, and choose to hold onto all the bitterness, pain and every yukky emotion that goes with being angry.
Or you can choose to not.

You can choose to be happy instead of “right”. You can choose to forgive. You can choose to figure out why you are angry, what do you need to sort it out for you.
You can choose how to respond to your emotions, you can choose the impact that another’s act will have on you.
You can choose to take control of your thoughts, and not allow yourself to get caught up in a negative situation.
You can know what your triggers are, kids refusing to stay in bed, that person from work pushing your buttons, partner not listening, a friend’s thoughtless remark...and react differently to the triggers, take a deep breathe, acknowledge, and find an alternative way to respond.

Friends, family members, partners, work colleagues, our children. All are capable of making us feel angry.
Imagine if we all made a conscious choice for our peace and happiness.
Imagine if we all treated each other and ourselves with understanding and empathy.

So, next time you feel ready to lose your cool over a car park... Think again, choose a beautiful life!

suzy x

Moments in the Moment

Moments That Made Me Smile This Week.

Mindfulness is basically a quality of mind that can strengthen our awareness of the causes and conditions determining this present moment, and our awareness of how we are relating to these causes and conditions.
So if we are aware of why/how things are and we can be aware of how we feel/deal with this, we can be in a pretty good place.

This last week, I started a list in my notebook of moments that make me smile...it’s a long list, and I wont submit you to all of it, but here are a few, to be remindful that each moment is what we make of it!

Hanging out washing on a sunny, breezy Monday morning.
Really enough said, how can you not enjoy getting the weekends washing done in conditions like that!

Having my little sister living near us.
Regina’s daughter is a lot younger than me, in fact not that much older than my own children.
Sadly for us neither my husband’s, nor my family live nearby and I have always been envious of those who are lucky enough to have this. I have always missed being able to see my family more often.
Family is an amazing resource, and I’m not just talking about free babysitting! To see our children with other people on hand to turn to and have a close loving relationship is wonderful. I especially love watching the amazing rapport growing between these three young people. My children have a magnificent role model in this lovely young girl, and we are blessed.
Be grateful if you have your family nearby. Don’t take for granted the diversity of relationships you can all enjoy. Not everyone is in this fortunate position.

Kitchen Dancing.
This is one of my great joys, it makes my children sometimes laugh, sometimes cringe. My husband and I even compete to out geek each other! When I do it on my own, it is bliss, and can transform into a one woman cabaret show. One of the great things about getting older is that you become quite the expert at this particular style...why is that?
So, Dance like you are alone...in your own kitchen!

Dining In instead of Out.
The other evening my plans changed, as often happens when one has children. I had planned to go out for dinner with a friend. Instead of being disappointed when this changed I made a huge delicious curry, my husband lit a fire, and my friend and her children came over. Sitting around the warmth of the flames, watching them lick at the wood, the children squealing in delight toasting marshmallows, my little girl loving the smell of burning wood – she told us it reminded her of camping. Who needs restaurants?

Sharing a Green Tea with a friend.
Sunlight, conversation, silence...Pleasure.

My Weed.
Not what you think! The other day, I was sitting in my back yard when I noticed quite a large weed had grown up out of the concrete on the edge of our rendered house. I got up to pull it out and as I came closer, I couldn’t help but think of how against all odds, this little guy had risen to the challenge, and did just what it was that he needed to do. There he was basking in the sunlight, and looking quite lovely. Needless to say he is still there and makes me smile every time I look over at him, reminding me to just be me.

My kids have been off school.
A little bit sick, a little bit exhausted. Instead of letting this ruin my routine of chores, we have broken the day up with other things we can do; making sock puppets out of hand-me-downs, teaching the kids to sew button eyes on, and then getting back to my stuff, while they play with them for hours.
We redecorated their upstairs area, giving them heaps of enjoyment, moving furniture around, being creative. (and I got to get in a good clean up!) Kids are such a great example of impermanence and mindfulness. Everything changes, moments are just moments.
I also smiled when they went back to school, thank the goddess for impermanence!

My husband was standing in a ray of sunlight.
He commented on how nice it felt to just stand there and soak it up, so I snuck up behind him and stole some, and got to share a hug at the same time.

Sunday Family Roast Lunch.
Always makes me smile. It started out as dinner, but with the rush to clean up and get kids organized in the early evening, it just naturally morphed into lunch. We all enjoy having the time to sit down together and talk with none of the weekly evening distractions.
We have a ritual called “roses and thorns”. Telling each other what has been great in our week, and also being able to talk about something that was not. We make a point of concentrating on the roses as the thorns can become a bit of an excuse to complain...which we had to nip in the bud, so to speak! Actually, the thorns just naturally fell away once we all got the hang of it.
Another element that I particularly enjoy is the follow up Sunday dinner, simply left-overs or toasted sandwiches. What a relaxing Sunday afternoon!

We could all take note, or make notes of the things that make us smile. The small beautiful things that fill our beautiful lives.
They remind us of how each moment just is that, a perfect moment right now.

suzy x

Give Forgive a Chance

“We move through life hurting others as well as being hurt.
We move though life hurting ourselves as well as being hurt by others.
And forgiveness is needed”. Stephanie Dowrick

Forgiveness is not pretending wrong is right. It allows us to see the big picture, where things are as they are, right, wrong...they just are.
Forgiveness of those who have hurt us is not a generosity of our spirit; it simply prevents their harmful impact from influencing us.
Forgiveness allows us to learn from the past as we leave it behind.

We either forgive, or we hold onto bitterness and anger.

People are evolving all the time. Scientists have told us we replace and regenerate every cell in our body. That would mean neither me nor you are the same person we were several years ago. People’s priorities change. What was once held significant may not hold the same value for someone anymore. People often act without thinking. They are driven by their own internal stories; therefore their actions are not only about you.
Knowing this doesn’t make damage or pain go away, but it can be very helpful when we want to forgive someone.


Forgive because you can.
Forgiveness is irrelevant of whether or not it is deserved.
Forgiveness follows the decision not to allow past wounds to dictate your present.

Real people are complex.
Someone who has hurt you may never understand what they have done, and they may never suffer for their actions. This is no longer your concern.
No-one’s suffering, or understanding for that matter, will make you feel better.

During the week, as Regina and I were discussing Forgiveness, I realized I was having great difficulty in forgiving someone close to me for a remark that is brought up every now and then over the years. (Often enough for me!)
Whilst discussing this, Regina observed this person is obviously very attached to what they have been saying to me (about me), to be saying it for so long.
As we talked…I came up with why this person could be so attached to the hurtful remarks…it was their way of bandaging their involvement over what had happened, not wanting to acknowledge their own part in the story.
After realizing this, it was a huge release, wow, I could actually move on from this on-going painful remark once understanding it wasn’t really about me. I could forgive her. And I will know that, the next time it is brought up!

You are in control of your own thoughts, reactions and emotions. Emotions follow thoughts, and you have the power to reject thoughts that disturb or upset you.
Remember the golden-oldie, “nothing is either good or bad, but thinking makes it so”.

Instead of spending energy on what has hurt us, turn your attention to what supports you. When forgiveness is absent, so is self respect and perhaps even self-love.

I can hate something that has been done; I can even detest the person who did it. I may never want to see them, speak to them or trust them again. But I want to move forward, if only for my own sake. So I forgive them. And I feel a helluva lot better these days!

Once you have forgiven someone, you don’t have to continue doing it. It only takes once, if it is done honestly. Then when thoughts of that person or the hurtful experience come to mind, just wish them well. If you do this every time, the thought will return less and less, until it actually fades away.

Forgiveness will treat your hurt as you would any other wound. You may have broken your arm once, you will remember the pain, but you can’t feel it anymore. You will always remember the hurtful incident, but you no longer feel the pain.


2 Tools for Forgiveness

Imagine the person who has hurt you; now imagine you have just been told the most wonderful news about them. How do you feel? If you feel a flash of bitterness, resentment or anger, you have not been able to forgive them...yet.
If you feel ok with it, even at ease, you know you have moved on and have successfully forgiven them.

Here is one that I love from Stephanie Dowrick’s book “Choosing Happiness Life & Soul Essentials”.
Imagine you are putting the person who has caused you harm into a small boat, and that the boat is traveling back out into the ocean of life. Give it a great heave! Soon it’s far out of your range of vision. You are not causing that person harm; you are leaving them to their destiny.
You are getting on with your own.

suzy x

To the Power of the Positive!

A few weeks ago I wrote about Junk mail, useless mind chatter. When we unconsciously let our mind be filled with unnecessary thoughts, which we are not aware of. We are also not aware of how negative these thoughts usually are...and what a negative impact they have on our lives.

I’m talking about the stream of thoughts that are telling us what we don’t like about ourselves and others...you know the ones, I’m fat, I’m broke, I’m unhappy. Or, would you check out what she is wearing!

When we are consciously aware of this Junk mail, and choose to turn these thoughts into positive affirmations we change the impact our thoughts have on our present and our future. To a positive outcome.

I know some people find affirmations a bit on the airy-fairy side, it is a bit unusual to go into someone’s bathroom and see a big sign on the mirror, saying “I am beautiful”.
But if you consider, that your mind, your sub-conscience, does not have a sense of humour, it does not understand sarcasm and it is only trying to achieve what you are constantly asking for, then...if you tell yourself you are fat, your sub-conscious mind will try damn hard to achieve that for you...same with broke, sick and unhappy unfortunately! Get the idea.
But if you were to constantly tell your self, I am healthy; I have a healthy body, and start to believe it, guess what? You will feel, and more than likely achieve, a healthy body, meaning a healthy weight, not feeling as sick and hopefully feeling happier too!

Don’t let yourself wake up in the morning, thinking “Oh my, this day sucks, these kids are driving me crazy or I hate my job, blah blah blah.” You know what you are going to get, don’t you, a day that sucks big time, insanity causing children, and another horrible day at work. Instead take a few moments to be grateful, positive, say a little affirmation, whatever works for you. Make it yours, your words, your situation. Own it. Write it. Say it. Believe it.

I will admit to you, I am one of those people who likes to have things up on my mirror (call me airy-fairy, I don’t mind!) I write big affirmations in white board pen. At the moment it says “live a beautiful life”. At times it has said things regarding health, happiness, energy, but it is there and a constant reminder, to let my subconscious know what is on my wish list.
The more you think it and say it the more you will believe it, and guess again- once you believe it...you are it. So, constantly thinking with positive affirmations, will make you happy, healthy, wealthy, successful. It is not some distant, one day obtainable thing; it is here, ready, waiting for you, waiting for you to want it, think about it and believe it.

Take the word successful; think to yourself I AM SUCCESSFUL, over and over, regularly, everyday. Soon you will see success in your life; you are successful, in more ways then one. Look at all the things you have successfully done, you are a SUCCESS! See, success wasn’t some far off thing you were trying to achieve, you have been achieving it all along, all this time, you just needed to let yourself know it, feel it, believe it and then you see it! (This works with any type of affirmation by the way!)

I said at the start of this piece, when we think negatively about ourselves and others. Sometimes I find myself standing in a line somewhere, and before I know it Whoomp! I’ve just looked at some stranger, and thought, “get a load of that”...before I can even catch myself. I don’t want to feel like this, I don’t want to be judgmental of another person; this person is the same as me. This person also wants a healthy and happy life. Being judgmental is a form of Junk mail, it doesn’t really matter if things are good or bad... food, days, traffic, someone’s dress sense...it just is. Don’t let the Junk mail run with judging everything you come across.
A fantastic little way to fix this negative blunder is to bless the person, silently wish them a happy and loving life.

My problem recurring thought is “...we can’t, we’re broke” or “I shouldn’t...broke”
So how do I turn that into a positive affirmation, when I sure as heck know how much is in the bank account, so it’s hard to “feel” wealthy! (Because you have to feel it to believe it right?)
Regina suggested to say instead, I choose not to spend my money on that outfit, or going out for dinner or whatever the subject is. We are making a choice; this instantly makes the situation positive, I CHOOSE not to spend my money on that.

Having pure consciousness is pure potentiality. Potentiality is all our infinite possibilities. Our essential nature is pure potentiality. By paying close attention, we can create our future in our present activities.

Live a beautiful life!

suzy x