Changing My World

The other day I purchased a little silver disc to wear on my wrist with one of my very favorite sayings.

What does this saying mean to me?

It is way to big of a job for me to change the whole world, but if I change myself, my world will change around me.

Be the mother I wish to see in the world.

Be the partner I wish to see in the world.

Be the friend I wish to see in the world.

Be the employee, the employer, the co-worker, the neighbor, the daughter.

Be the person I wish to see in the world.


I love wearing my little disc, it reminds me to be the change I wish to see in the world.



suzy x

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The Optimist Creed

A workmate and I have both recently printed a copy of Christian D. Larson’s Optimist Creed and have been making a ritual of reading it each morning- in our own time and to ourselves...not together, which would be a tad weird for the rest of our office!
They are such amazing words and if I can follow just three of his declarations during the day I feel I have been successful.

Larson was an exceptional and extremely significant early New Thought* leader and teacher. He was a prolific writer who believed that people have remarkable underlying powers which can be used for success with the right outlook.

In 1901 he organized the New Thought Temple and began publishing a periodical “Eternal Progress”. He had 40 of his books published.

The Optimist Creed appeared in his book “Your Forces and How To Use Them” in 1912. Many have since found inspiration in this creed, from healers and hospitals to sports coaches and schools; and especially those of us who want live with the practice of being happy.

So here it is:

Promise Yourself
To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet.
To make all your friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them.
To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.
To think only of the best, to work only for the best and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.
To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile to every living creature you meet.
To give so much time to improving yourself that you have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.
To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud word, but in great deeds.
To live in the faith that he whole world is on your side, so long as you are true to the best that is in you.
Cool huh.

Try it; print it out, read it, email it, stick it up on your fridge. Give it a go, my co-worker and I have noticed it does change your perspective of the day; it does help with getting ourselves into a good frame of mind.
It’s pretty much a guide to having a beautiful life.

suzy x
*New Thought is a spiritual movement which developed in the United States during the late 19th century and emphasizes metaphysical (abstract and theoretical study of being) beliefs concerning the effects of positive thinking, the law of attraction, healing, life force, creative visualization and personal power.
Very much the origins of what the DVD and Book “The Secret” is influenced by.

Love Me Do

Regina’s piece last week on Self Worth really hit a chord with a lot of people. I had conversations with people before the blog went up, who have situations where their self worth is really taking a battering.

This all got me thinking, reading, researching.

Self Esteem
Self Worth
Self Regard
Self Respect
Self Integrity

SELF LOVE

Self Love does not mean we are one of those who comes across as self obsessed or self centered. Self love is a courageous mental shift, of inner understanding. When we have true love for ourselves, we can spread it around; we cannot possibly offer genuine love to others, if we don’t see ourselves as a source of love. This is not only in our relationships, but in our deeds and actions to anyone in our community.

Write it Down:
We all have them, those broken records, those little nagging criticisms. We’ve been listening to these messages for so long now, we often don’t even hear them. But they do have their impact on our self worth. Write it down, separate it from your mind, see it on a piece of paper, and say to yourself, there I don’t need to carry that around anymore, I can leave it on that piece of paper. Remind yourself when you hear that whisper (or loud scream) to change the mental CD, or skip to a positive one, we don’t have to put up with “broken records” anymore!

Counteract the Above:
For every negative thought, find a response that counteracts it. Make it as loving, kind and positive as possible.

Ask Yourself:
Is this just that, an old thought pattern? Is it of any use to me anymore? Do the facts of my life still support this thought? Why am I letting this recur? Remind yourself you no longer need this.

What is your Mood:
How are you feeling when you have these thoughts. If you were feeling happier, well, energetic would you see the situation the same way?

The Source:
Where did I get this thought? Most things go way back, to very early relationships, traumas, coping mechanisms. So is it effective or useful anymore?
If you do know the source, reassure that little kid, teen or young adult, that smaller You. Tell them they did nothing wrong, and you are here to protect and love them now.

Make Lists:
Make a list of what you like about yourself. Modesty does not help here, nor do old criticisms. Praise for yourself is healing, and it nourishes your self worth. If you find this difficult to do, think about what you love and admire in others. Do you have those same traits, usually you do.

Make a list of compliments from others. When someone pays you a compliment or comments in a positive way about you, make a note. (Physically, like get yourself a notebook for all these notes!) This is not a replacement for your own self love, but a step towards learning to have self love. Sometimes we may need to hear it from others (and be able to read it again!) so that we can value it in ourselves. (Really get a notebook, so you can re-read all the lovely things you and others think of you, great for those days that are bummers!)

Make a list (in that new gorgeous little notebook of yours) of something you achieve, or are proud of. You can update it every day or every week, make note of these things.

Read Your New Notebook Whenever You Need a Pick up!

Give Yourself an Affirmation of Loving-kindness.
Find one that works for you. You can Google it!
I AM KIND, COMPASSIONATE, INTELLIGENT AND WISE (or use whatever words you like). Repeat this as often as you can, stick them up everywhere, or if you don’t feel comfortable with that put little notes where you will find them; in the pocket of a pair of jeans, your wallet, and the biscuit tin! Repeating is the key, a lesson we should all know by that old broken record.
A really tough one can be to look at yourself in the mirror, look deeply into your eyes, and tell You...I Love You. See the compassion, the kindness and tell yourself again.
A thing I do when I am getting a treatment on my back, is when I am lying on the table I go deep in and tell myself “I love you, I want you to feel good, I will take care of you.”

Another thing that comes to mind is a little joke my husband and I have. If one of us speaks a bit harsher than we should, the other says, “Would you speak to your best friend like that?” (In a funny jokey voice- but it works, puts it into perspective!) Maybe we need to ask ourselves that, would we tell a friend the things we tell ourselves. Talk to others like we do ourselves?


Life holds no grudges against us, it always forgives us. Does our vision of love exclude ourselves? We accept our loved ones for “who they are”; can we allow ourselves the same? When having a negative thought ask "Is this kind?" Paying attention to our (supposed) faults and flaws, being tough on ourselves does not bring change, does not make us happier. Negative, hurtful thoughts and self criticism hold back the free flow of harmony in our lives.
Encourage strengths and positives.

Think of a loved one: partner, friend or family. Close your eyes, think of everything you love about this person, how they make you feel, what you admire in them. Now imagine yourself to be that person, and how that person sees you, what they love about you, how you make them feel, what they admire in you. Imagine them feeling all the compassion and love they have for you, and the happiness you bring them. Feel their compassion and love and own it.

suzy x

To the Power of the Positive!

A few weeks ago I wrote about Junk mail, useless mind chatter. When we unconsciously let our mind be filled with unnecessary thoughts, which we are not aware of. We are also not aware of how negative these thoughts usually are...and what a negative impact they have on our lives.

I’m talking about the stream of thoughts that are telling us what we don’t like about ourselves and others...you know the ones, I’m fat, I’m broke, I’m unhappy. Or, would you check out what she is wearing!

When we are consciously aware of this Junk mail, and choose to turn these thoughts into positive affirmations we change the impact our thoughts have on our present and our future. To a positive outcome.

I know some people find affirmations a bit on the airy-fairy side, it is a bit unusual to go into someone’s bathroom and see a big sign on the mirror, saying “I am beautiful”.
But if you consider, that your mind, your sub-conscience, does not have a sense of humour, it does not understand sarcasm and it is only trying to achieve what you are constantly asking for, then...if you tell yourself you are fat, your sub-conscious mind will try damn hard to achieve that for you...same with broke, sick and unhappy unfortunately! Get the idea.
But if you were to constantly tell your self, I am healthy; I have a healthy body, and start to believe it, guess what? You will feel, and more than likely achieve, a healthy body, meaning a healthy weight, not feeling as sick and hopefully feeling happier too!

Don’t let yourself wake up in the morning, thinking “Oh my, this day sucks, these kids are driving me crazy or I hate my job, blah blah blah.” You know what you are going to get, don’t you, a day that sucks big time, insanity causing children, and another horrible day at work. Instead take a few moments to be grateful, positive, say a little affirmation, whatever works for you. Make it yours, your words, your situation. Own it. Write it. Say it. Believe it.

I will admit to you, I am one of those people who likes to have things up on my mirror (call me airy-fairy, I don’t mind!) I write big affirmations in white board pen. At the moment it says “live a beautiful life”. At times it has said things regarding health, happiness, energy, but it is there and a constant reminder, to let my subconscious know what is on my wish list.
The more you think it and say it the more you will believe it, and guess again- once you believe it...you are it. So, constantly thinking with positive affirmations, will make you happy, healthy, wealthy, successful. It is not some distant, one day obtainable thing; it is here, ready, waiting for you, waiting for you to want it, think about it and believe it.

Take the word successful; think to yourself I AM SUCCESSFUL, over and over, regularly, everyday. Soon you will see success in your life; you are successful, in more ways then one. Look at all the things you have successfully done, you are a SUCCESS! See, success wasn’t some far off thing you were trying to achieve, you have been achieving it all along, all this time, you just needed to let yourself know it, feel it, believe it and then you see it! (This works with any type of affirmation by the way!)

I said at the start of this piece, when we think negatively about ourselves and others. Sometimes I find myself standing in a line somewhere, and before I know it Whoomp! I’ve just looked at some stranger, and thought, “get a load of that”...before I can even catch myself. I don’t want to feel like this, I don’t want to be judgmental of another person; this person is the same as me. This person also wants a healthy and happy life. Being judgmental is a form of Junk mail, it doesn’t really matter if things are good or bad... food, days, traffic, someone’s dress sense...it just is. Don’t let the Junk mail run with judging everything you come across.
A fantastic little way to fix this negative blunder is to bless the person, silently wish them a happy and loving life.

My problem recurring thought is “...we can’t, we’re broke” or “I shouldn’t...broke”
So how do I turn that into a positive affirmation, when I sure as heck know how much is in the bank account, so it’s hard to “feel” wealthy! (Because you have to feel it to believe it right?)
Regina suggested to say instead, I choose not to spend my money on that outfit, or going out for dinner or whatever the subject is. We are making a choice; this instantly makes the situation positive, I CHOOSE not to spend my money on that.

Having pure consciousness is pure potentiality. Potentiality is all our infinite possibilities. Our essential nature is pure potentiality. By paying close attention, we can create our future in our present activities.

Live a beautiful life!

suzy x