Tantrum Check

It is more or less effortless to be an easy going and nice person...when things go our way. The test is; can we remain the easy going, nice person when things do not go our way?

We’ve all done it, or for those who haven’t (yeah right!)- we have all seen others do it. Things don’t go our way, and we throw an almighty tantrum. These can manifest in all different ways; yelling, silence, cutting people down with nasty observations. Not pleasant.

I am focusing on remaining the nice me no matter what the circumstance. It is difficult but it does pay off! I feel mature, in control of my actions, thoughtful and just a better person.

My relationships are happier and I don’t have to beat myself up over something I have said or the way I have treated someone.

A good way to keep my tantrums in check is to notice how I feel when someone does it to me, what I think of the way they have reacted. As I said before; not pleasant. Not who I want to be or how I want my life to be. It is a behaviour that pushes people away. It makes you seem irrational, immature, selfish and a person who is not “in tune” with others.

Is it that important to always be right, or to have things your way? Why? Why not choose another way? Years ago Oprah made the comment during a show, “Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?” It has been one of those remarks that really has an impact and stayed with me.

So let’s hear it for those people we know, we work with, we love. The ones who keep their cool and let things slide. The ones, who don’t need to be right, have things their way. The ones who have respect for others and deserve our respect. The ones we all aspire to be a little more like. The ones who remind us it can be a beautiful life.

suzy x