Thursday, March 18, 2010

How To Be Happy

Happiness is a Choice.

We have to squash our negative thoughts...like a bug!
It takes so much energy to think and speak negatively.
It takes all our energy away from us when we choose to feel miserable, to hate, to be angry, to judge others.
Pull yourself up from negative thinking, slap yourself on the wrist. (I actually do that, physically!)
Happiness is a Choice. Make It.

Feel the Love People!
Love the people around you. Love your home. Love your pet.
Love your dinner. Love your bed. Love the weather.
The stronger you feel love, the stronger the power of the Law of Attraction in your life. The stronger the Law of Attraction; the stronger the power to create a beautiful life and attract more love into your life!

Be Grateful. For your family, for your friends, for your job, for your car, for your furniture, for your toothbrush!
If you wake up every morning and feel true gratitude for all that you have, you will feel happiness, how can you not. Mentally going through a list of what you are grateful for reminds you of the positives in your life, of what is important to you.

Mindfulness. Live in the moment. When the moment is good, do not worry about things that have happened, or things that could happen. When the moment is good, sit back and notice, smile, take a mental snap shot. Life is good, whether it’s a funny moment, great meal, fresh breeze. Enjoy these moments. Notice them.

Do not judge others, and do not allow yourself to be judged by others. I believe judgment of others to be one of the biggest failings we can have.
It is sneaky and comes up in our thoughts with out us even noticing. It is erroneous and a daily battle worth fighting.
I can’t say this enough, if you stop judging others you will immediately drop a little misery- just like that.

Do not compare yourself to others either... be inspired by them.
Be happy with who you are, where you are and what you have.

Make deep friendships. Two deep friends are worth a hundred times more than a group of people who do not recognize your value and care for you. Recognize the value in the friends that matter to you, thank them, let them know. Share with them, support them and know that they will always be there for you too.

Be Generous. With words, thoughts, actions. Give a little gift to someone who makes a difference in your life or call them and tell them what they mean to you. People gain a lot of pleasure from being told they are appreciated. You will feel happy by just doing something so simple.

Laugh. Watch funny movies, read funny books. Hang out with kids, have funny friends, be funny, whatever it takes, make sure you laugh as often as you can. See the funny side. Life doesn’t have to be so serious, it should be enjoyed

Rest. Re-charge. Re-energise. Re-flect. Get enough sleep. Take a nap. Lie down with a magazine. Deep Breathe. Meditate. Life is so fast pace; we prioritize getting things done, getting somewhere now and sometimes forgot how important it is to just rest.

Believe in something other than yourself. Something bigger than us. Think about what contribution you can make in your life time. Give back.

Don’t expect the worst. Sometimes when things seem to be going wrong, it may be that they are just changing paths and direction. Some problems are there to help us grow. Have some trust in the Universe; expect things to turn out for the best eventually.

Don’t see the worst in others, accept differences, expect the best only of yourself.

Take a good look at yourself.
It’s fine to know the affirmations, the mantras and read the books...but where are your thoughts...
Are they happy? Or are you concentrating on what you don’t like, what annoys you, who did something “wrong”...
How is your lifestyle? Are you a good friend, co-worker, person; making conscience positive decisions or are you making the day harder and a little more difficult for others or yourself?

If we keep thinking we hate our job-we will always hate our job.
If we think about how someone always drives us crazy- they will always drive us crazy.
If you keep thinking about those extra kilos, you will always have extra kilos.

If you keep thinking about how someone makes you hurt, angry, how things never go right, how you don’t like certain things about someone...you are never going to be able to be truly happy

Happiness is determined by our minds, not our circumstances. Happiness is a choice. No one or no thing can make us happy.

Keep thinking about how awesome our families are.
What amazing friends we have.
How you can make a difference at work, in the world...for someone.
How the sunshine is a blessing, how good your favorite sandwich tastes, how funny our friends and kids are.
We are surrounded by simple pleasures every day.

And remember of course happy people are not happy all the time, that would be impossible, life throws stuff at all of us- they are just better at bouncing back to the state of contentedness after feeling unhappy.

Spread the word. Enjoy the Journey. We are here to live a happy life, a beautiful life.

suzy x

Monday, March 15, 2010

Respond With Peace

Hey There! How has your week been? Mine has been pretty fast paced, finishing filming on one job, getting ready for another...friends birthdays, and other catch ups to be had...and spending time with my beautiful family.

So as I didn't get around to writing something on Friday, I am going to share someone elses words again. And it's not to be lazy, if I wanted to do that, I would just not add anything until next week! I found these words, and thought they were really quite special, and as it's Monday, I thought it was a lovely way to start a fresh week.

Respond With Peace

Whatever things may come your way today,
make it a point to let your first response a peaceful one.
There is power in peaceful calmness,
the power to follow your own plans and purposes.
That gets lost when you react out of anger.

It takes determined intention and effort
to respond peacefully.
The power and control it gives you
are well worth the effort.

Certainly you want to look out for your own interests.
Yet just because you are firmly determined
is no reason to be angry and out of control.
The greatest power is almost always
in a peaceful, measured response.

Do you really want to let someone else
dictate your level of stress and anxiety?
Do you really want to let others
control your actions?

Respond calmly and peacefully.
Maintain your composure.
Maintain your control.
Let your first response be peaceful,
and you'll make it much more effective.

Ralph Marston

Thank you Mr Marston, well said.

More from me next week, promise!

suzy x

Friday, March 5, 2010

Karma not Drama

Maybe I should be doing a Blog on my favorite sayings because I’ve got another one for you. This one gets me through so many things, so many times a day!

HOW PEOPLE TREAT YOU IS THEIR KARMA; HOW YOU REACT IS YOURS. Wayne Dyer

I’m not going to try and define or give philosophical explanations, laws or concepts of Karma, apart from saying it generally comes down to that one is responsible for one’s own life.

No, I use this quote for when I feel angry, hurt, saddened or generally ill treated by someone. It could be anyone, people close to me, friends of others, or an unknown person in a shopping centre.

Instead of getting any of the above mentioned ill feelings, instead of fuming over the how dare them, questioning myself on why they would...and all the other ways we can play peoples actions or words over and over in our minds. I instead focus on my KARMA and how I react.

I do not need to worry about their Karma, their actions or words, those are theirs.
I need to be concerned with my actions and words.

I own my choices, thoughts and actions, nobody else’s.

It can be soul strengthening to know that you react in kindness or at least a more positive way to which you have been treated!
It takes the pain of how you have been treated away quicker and takes your focus away from the negative.
It basically just does that, moves your energy away from the negative, and into the positive.

Another gem from Mr. Dyer- Conflict cannot survive without your participation.

When someone is really getting to me, I just repeat the little mantra in my mind, don’t get caught up in all the stuff that is going on for them, take a deep breath, and look after my own karma, my own beautiful life.

suzy x